Sometimes some people aren’t meant to be in your life. This goes for friendships and romantic relationships. Some people are simply meant to be in your life for a season. You may be good friends with someone and known them for a long time, but things change and people change. It’s okay to let go and just move on with your life. Here are 8 tips to help you out in identifying and then letting go of one.
1. Always trust your gut feelings
Gut feelings may look insignificant but are actually the most accurate when you come to realize it. So trust yourself enough to consider the gut feelings, they are formed by the small insignificant things that you tend to ignore in daily life.
- Question yourself and answer honestly
Questioning yourself will lead you to ponder more on the matter and realize the reality of the situation. Here are a few questions: “Is the pain too great to stay the same?”, “Am I the only one that is willing to meet the ends?
- Seek guidance
At times your situation or mindset might not allow you to look at things both ways clearly, so it’s better to seek guidance before taking such a big step. Not only will this verify what you think but also help you get out the frustration and anger. This does not always have to be a therapist or psychiatrist, it can also be a good friend or family member.
- Take your time
It’s OK to take your time and plan the exit after all it’s a big decision of your life, so take your time and consider all aspects before stepping into a new zone.
- Give yourself space to heal
No matter how strong you are, your mind needs to relax as it requires a lot of energy to become emotionally detached.
- End contact with them
Yes you read it right. There is no such thing as going back to being friends. That will only strain your mind and make it more difficult to forget as you will start noticing the small things once again. So free yourself, and cut off all contact!
- Remember the feelings
This is the best way to keep a distance. Not only will it keep you steadfast on your decision but also eventually make you lose the affection you once had.
- Trust your brain more than your heart
This will help you evaluate the whole situation with the pros and cons because the heart will never go towards the drawbacks and you know that!
Sometimes we have a tendency to explain and reaffirm ourselves to others, but why? What is our true motive behind our search of reassurance from others? Although this may be helpful sometimes, at the end of the day everything that we do in our lives has to come from a deep inner feeling of self-love.