Will you look at that! The end of the year is upon us. We are almost done with another packed 365 days and 2018 is peaking its nose around the corner. But first, the holiday season. The holiday season is one of transition, both in the traditional sense and in the challenge that you’re now experiencing. With all the romantic comedies and tv advertisements surrounding you 24/7, the holiday season has come to be known as a time of togetherness, family, gifts, engagements, carols and travel. However, I know all too well that what the world projects onto to us is not always everybody’s reality. I know that through all the Christmas carols, trees and turkeys, the holiday season can equally be a very lonely one. So let’s do it differently this year. Let’s pamper ourselves and have a fun and colorful experience and end 2017 with a bang and gratitude for all that we are. So here are a few ideas that I employ you to experience, if not all!
Don’t turn down invitations. Get out there even if you don’t feel like it.
Yes, you read right. Get out that shell sweetie. We are not going to go down that sad, soppy path where you spend the best of your days in front of the TV watching re-runs of Bridgette Jones Diary. Now don’t get me wrong, that was an excellent movie but not this time around. Nope this time around when your home girls and colleagues and family invite you over to spend time with them, do not wave them off with an excuse. Nope, we are not doing that this time around. This time around you will be jumping at invitations, you will even be suggesting venues and activities because life pulsates through your veins. Even when you genuinely do not feel like it, and boy I know that sometimes snuggling in your PJs is all that your soul needs and yearns for, but it is not always the solution. If you want to snuggle in your PJs, sipping hot chocolate (or wine), then plan a sleepover. Do it with other people. There is something about having people around you that lifts the spirit, so do not deny yourself that feeling.
Shake up your holiday routine. Try something new.
Ahhh, I love the holiday season for this. For some of you, you have taken a chunk of time off work and for some of you, you were only able to get some days off- that’s perfectly fine. Maximize that time! Heck, even if you are working, during the times when you are done with work for the day, spice it up! If you are used to eating at your favorite Chinese restaurant, for next few days/ weeks try out the Italian place, the Greek, the French cuisine. Step out of your normal life and be an explorer. Add some color to your life. If you are used to taking the same holiday vacation, to the same city, to the same cabin…you know where I am going with this, right? Shake. It. Up. You will certainly surprise yourself. Don’t over plan, don’t overthink it. Just go on an adventure. If you are religious, visit different churches and see how they do their holiday services. Or hit the club and go dancing, and dance like no one is watching. Have a new and fresh holiday hairstyle, and color up your soul. Let your spirit free. Shaking up your routine is a great way to meet new people.
Take care of yourself
If you are like most people, you have been pushing the grind the entire year, hustling really hard, and not getting much rest. Well, this is a time to also pamper yourself and recuperate. A time to “catch up with yourself,” and to reconnect with your essence. As much as you should spice it up and add adventure to your life, it’s ok to slow it down once in a while. Go to the spa and get a relaxing massage, throw in a mani-pedi or facial while you’re there. Allow yourself to be taken on a date. Grab that book that you have been meaning to read for awhile. Learn an instrument or new skill or language. Take walks in the park and connect with mother nature again. Basically, take a moment to feed your heart and soul. After all, you spend all of the time with your body and mind, it’s worth it giving yourself extra love and care.
Buy yourself an Awesome Gift
Need I say more? I would say gifts if you can, but don’t get yourself into debt, please! Big or small, it doesn’t really matter. The point is that you should treat yourself. Pamper yourself. Just as we quickly and easily gift others, we should do the same for ourselves. We often forget ourselves, or bargain and negotiate with ourselves or only get something if we feel like we “deserve it.” You are alive and that means you deserve all that life can give you. So whether it’s that cute pair of shoes you have been eyeing, or that lovely teal jacket or that vacation that you been aching for, or that car or house. You name it- spoil yourself just because. No explanations needed. I am not saying be excessive and go on a shopping spree and get your accounts in the red. Spoil yourself consciously and wisely. Tis the season to be jolly after all!
A time to reflect
I say rather than focusing on what you don’t have or settling for less than what you want and deserve, be appreciative and grateful for what you do have in your life. Look back at the year that has gone by and pat yourself on the back for all your achievements. For all the growth that has taken place, the hurdles you have overcome, the friendships that you have made, the tears that you have shed, the food that made you go yum yum and the people that have crossed your path. Be grateful for all the experiences that have come your way and the lessons that have accompanied them. If you can hold onto that, the holidays will be an enjoyable time for you. Take a moment to visualize how you would like the next 365 days to look and feel like. Ask yourself, “What adventures and stories would I like to live?” What habits would I like to change or introduce? What kind of people do I want to spend my time and mind around? Take a moment to reflect on what was and what will become.
Wishing you all a happy holiday! And hey…maybe it’s time to dye your hair blue after all! Tis the season to be jolly!